Something that we don’t do enough of is becoming the technical expert of our own life. Most of the struggle is from trying to be or do something that we aren’t. I’m not saying you shouldn’t strive for improvement, but as my girl Gretchen Rubin says, it’s possible to both accept yourself AND expect more from yourself.

#ResolutionReset: Now that you know your tendency (see yesterday’s blog post), it’s time to dive in and analyze your behavior related to your resolution. Think about what reality looks like for you – not how you think you should be doing it.

Examine the process – if you want to drink more water, what does a day look like when you do a great job at that? What does a day look like when you don’t come close to meeting that goal? What’s the difference? How can you implement easy changes to help you overcome the difference? One client I worked with simply needed an at-home water bottle and a work water bottle… the breakdown was happening in the transition from place to place. She would forget the bottle and then just throw it all out the window for the day.

Try A/B testing – Create experiments for yourself to see which works better. Do I like getting up at 6 a.m. OR 7 a.m.? Try both out for a week and see what feels right.

Own Your Truths – I love creating these life rules for myself that I often say in third person… because there is research that your brain will believe something more if you say it in third person. You also probably really respect the truths you know about other people (like your boss) and accommodate them. I use all the hacks. I like the phrase “Meredith is a person who…” and then I own whatever truth about Meredith follows. Like “Meredith is a person who does her best work in the morning” which means I make it a priority to get up early and get to work quickly. I have a client who got some shade from her husband because she liked to switch her workout type every few months. Reframing this as your truth – “I’m a person who likes variety in my workouts” – helps you create a strategy that supports that instead of feeling like you “should” be doing something different.

You can hustle harder or you can find your flow and work smarter, not harder.


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